i thought this would fit here.....
I have a great friend and mentor that I met through work, he is my family no bones about it as hes one of my best friends and a kindred spirit... well his father just passed away and instead of just asking for your thought's and prayers for my firend Dave and his family I'm the type to rather enjoy how this person lived...
Here is Dave's story and I'm Honored to be able to tell it
Dave's Mom and Dad were, and are two awesome people. As he has 2 sisters and one brother. But all are adopted. Dave's Dad was a retired minister and is retired from General Motors... His mom a house wife as far as I know... so that little tid bit is something to say as they opened there hearts and homes and raised the children as there own, and if you asked Dave He only has one father, and one mother, then he has spermdonors.
Well to keep it short Dave's mother came into some bad health about a year ago, as her hips and bones started to weaken. So they put her into a nursing home.. for the first time in over 53 years the two, Dave's Father and Mother were apart... So Dave's Mother with all the hope in her heart knew that she would once again go home to be with her Husband and the man she loved. Dave to help the people that took him In and raised him unselfishly turned down many high paying jobs so that he cold be there and help the Parents that raised him with out a thought.. Well the doctors all had little hope for Dave's mother to ever make it home... Dave's mother broke a hip and it was growing back wrong.. they even said she wouldn't walk.. Well Dave Had hope in his heart, and so didn't his mother... as she proved them all wrong and walked and can still walk today, almost 9 months she was so determined to make it home to the man she loved... She had finally made it home and out of the rehabilitation center last month... this made Dave one of the happiest men alive as he got to see his parents together again, to be able to do the simplest of things as just be able to sleep in the same bed... true soulmates from day one devoted to each other...
Well a week after Dave's father had welcomed his wife back home,Dave's dad, who had to be on Dialysis started having kidney failure... This caused Dave's Father to have to be hospitalized... and away from his wife again.. So instead of taking his mother back to the nursing home Dave kept her at her home hiring a nurse to help her while her husband was away, he even took her up to see her husband in his free time and He still worked 14 hour days on top of all that, really giving back to the parents he loves so much.
About 2 weeks ago Dave's father got better. He was released and the nurses started to cry when he left, not b/c of any thought he was dying but just bc Dave's father was the nicest man they had all ever met and they loved the thought of him being with his wife of 54 years now again... Well He got to be with his wife for just 1 more week. The whole time Dave working 12 hour days now and taking his father for daily kidney treatments. Well a week ago his father took a turn for the worse... this causing him to have to Hospitalized once more and away from his Husband.
Well Today Dave's dad finally ended his awesome life but not before one final gesture from above for being such a great person that I am honored to know... In his final Hours Dave's dad, shaking and going through convulsions as his kidneys had all but given up... Dave's dad held on to see the women he loved one last time.. as she was at Dave's home with his Family. Well after some time Dave made the fateful call to have his wife bring his mother up to see his dad one last time...
Dave's dad was starting to make the next step in his journey of life and Dave would tell his father " Dad your Baby is on her way" For Dave's Dad always called his wife his baby... Finally Dave's Mom Made her way to her husband, Walking the entire way from the car... Dave's dad at the moment that he saw his wife stopped shaking and held her hand, This man got to hear his wife say that she loved him with all her heart and would see her husband again. Dave's mom then proceeded to sing her Husband their song... Holding her husband hand the entire time... After hours of holding on and keeping hope Dave's Dad finally passed on, Getting to see his wife and tell her that he will forever love her...
To me this is something in life that really makes me grateful to have a good friend and to hear of such an awesome thing as to hear of a man holding on with everything he has just to hear his wife's voice and be able to pass on at peace...
we all do not know how we will pass on, but If I ever had a choice, i hope its small amount as good and Honorable as My Friend Dave's Dad Passed on... To me that is just amazing...
thats all.. just thought id share that